Friendship Dynamics - Responses V

R: Response

Q: Question from me

THEY SAY "BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER", BUT CAN WATER BECOME BLOOD?

"We choose who we want in our lives and some people are more important than others"

RESPONSE I

R: Relationships are complicated whether it’s family or friends, so I don’t think it’s really a question about which is better, rather it’s who is in your life that you deem to be important, as harsh as it sounds. I have friends who consider their friends the closest and most important people in their life, maybe because their family relationships are strained or toxic or they just have never had a close relationship with their family. But I also know people who’s family are the most important to them. We choose who we want in our lives and some people are more important than others, family or friend. So it’s all about importance of relationships I think if that makes sense.

"... you can shape and choose the kind of friendships you find yourself in."

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RESPONSE II

R: Tricky but I would have to go with friends. You don't choose family but you can shape and choose the kind of friendships you find yourself in.

Q: If given a choice, would you abandon your family for your friends?

R: No I wouldn't.

Q: Why not?

R: They are much easier to forgive.

Q: What makes them easier to forgive?

Let me get this straight:

Friends can be chosen and shaped into what you want/need, but will never be chosen over family because they are easier to forgive?

R: No. Because I'm conditioned that you stick with family no matter what. Given the option I'd go for family because it is learned behavior. Family can be toxic, I've experienced it, but they're family at the end of the day.

Q: Where did you learn this behavior from though?

R: My mom especially

Q: Is it actually true or you're just following things you have not put to the test?

R: It's true.

Qoute from Bare by Jackie Phamotse

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RESPONSE III

R: Family in my case.

Q: Why?

R: Actually the straight forward answer is that my family is more dependable than friends. 

Q: Can friends ever become like family?

R: Yes

Q: Do you have one of those friends?

R: Yes. My best friend.

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"We get consumed in friendships so much that we forget that the individual exists with a different path"

RESPONSE I

R: I think a lot of times we tend to focus on our friendships and we forget about ourselves, where we want to see ourselves etc..

You lose the time to do things you really want to do because of so many things happening around you and the things you do with your friends. You almost forget who you are out of your friends.

We get consumed in friendships so much that we forget that the individual exists with a different path. That limits our growth.