Friendship Dynamics - Responses VIII

R: Response

Q: Question from me

WHAT IS THE MOST RIDICULOUS THING YOU HAVE DONE OR SEEN BEING DONE TO FIT INTO A FRIENDSHIP GROUP/KEEP A FRIEND?

"..now they hold those 'cool' kids responsible for their alcoholic and smoking tendencies."

RESPONSE I

R: We used to have this crazy thing where we'd just pick a random girl (preferably your crush) and you'd have to make your move.

Q: To stay in the friendship?

R: No, we just did it for fun, it's just crazy how it worked very for some people.

Q: What would happen if you made your move?

R: I made my intentions clear that I'm not looking for anything serious because I'm not ready.

Q: And your other friends?

R: Two of them are still in those relationships, so that's good.

Q: From doing that? Ooouu, that's fire 

R: Yep, it started as a dumb idea.

Q: What else have you seen people doing just to try and stay in friendships?

R: I've seen people turn alcoholic in the name of friendship.

Q: Yeah? How?

R: They started drinking alcohol and smoking just to fit in with the "cool" kids, now they hold those "cool" kids responsible for their alcoholic and smoking tendencies.

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CAN A FRIENDSHIP GROUP WITH AN UNEVEN NUMBER OF FRIENDS PROSPER? IS THREE, FIVE OR SEVEN A CROWD?

"..it's something you'll have to understand."

RESPONSE I 

R: I think it all bounces back to perspective, intentions and the quality of the friendship than quantity. So I think it can.

Q: Do you think that it's safer to keep and even number of people in the friendship in case it breaks off?

That way, one person won't be left alone

R: That's where the quality of the friendship comes in. If it was meant to be and all parties blended perfectly, it wouldn't have to break off. We'd be comfortable with each other than being within small parties in a friendship. But that's what usually happens. So yes that could work.

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RESPONSE II

R: Three is the most stable number, how do you stabilize a structure? Triangulation

Q: But what if the corners that form the base of the triangle start getting closer and leave the top corner alone?

R: The top corner has to understand that the other corners can be friends without it being around

Q: That's a hard reality to come around to, especially if you've been friends for a while

R: But it's something you'll have to understand.